5/15/2011
Just missed another opportunity to write a diary. Too many times in my life I have missed many opportunities for a lot of things. Perhaps it is me being slow and shy. But the good thing is that there is always ways to make it up, better later than never I suppose; this could be hard. Sometimes people will try to catch up until they realize they have spent too much time and energy to catch up and have little left for themselves.
Talks of love and relationships today: What is love?
As humans we are designed so we need to love others and feel beloved.
It is so tangible that everyone have different expectations/definitions based on their needs and wishes.
But I learned today that:
It s a need not being (unrealistically)selfish and unrealistic.
It s a feeling where you feel you belong.
It s a mutual interest/understanding through interaction and similarity of values, passion and goals.
It s a desire of the performance (aka. sex) that should only be practiced between husband and wife.
It s a unconditional giving/sacrifice when there s no suffering of such for anyone (ie. religious view for the love of God, goodness, kindness...etc.)
What is true love then?
You cannot say love at the first sight isn t, but they do have a pretty weak foundation to begin with.
You cannot say having intimacy and passion isn t, but they fade quickly once the act is over through time.
You cannot say getting along well together isn t, but well enough doesn t make the two husband and wife.
You cannot say having false imaginations of the other isn t, but it s reality that consolidate them thereafter.
You cannot say many qualities of expectation isn t, but they don t matter when the core qualities of love and loving family are predetermined and found by our heart and mind.