The power of forgiveness not only on the person who is forgiven but also on the one who forgives .
Research shows that these stress problem often disappear when an angry person is finally able to forgive .
First , we should focus our attention on the good things in our lives, produces feelings of gratitude .
Second, stop thinking we are victims . Instead , we should view ourselves as people who have survived difficult experiences and have hope for the future .
Third, we should try to mentally put ourselves in the position of the person who caused the hurt . This can make it easier to understand that person s actions .
Last, we should think about the times in the past when we ourselves were forgiven .
Then we should think about how that forgiveness made us feel .